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Everybody talks about wanting to change things and help and fix, but ultimately all you can do is fix yourself. And that’s a lot. Because if you can fix yourself, it has a ripple effect.

Rob Reiner


Don’t tell me that Gender Fluid is a lie.
Don’t tell me that Gender Fluid is just a phase.
Don’t tell me that Gender Fluid is childish.

I live and breath my gender fluidity. I proudly stand within the Gender Queers in support of a new, gender variant society.

Gender is the seed that has sprouted into the discriminatory, bigoted & bland society we live in. When you dig down deep into the issues surrounding the world right now it all comes back to one tiny little fuck up. The idea that biological sex somehow determines the gender roll of individuals is a lie. In fact, gender rolls is a lie. Just because I identify as gender fluid does not mean that I must uphold any societal expectation, associated with gender fluidity.

Plain and simple, I plan on having two children.
I will not teach my little boy to “be a man.”
I will not teach my little girl what it means to “be a woman.”
Instead, i’ll teach my children to just simply be good people.
Because a society full of good people makes for a better life than a society full of classified, judgmental, opinionated and shallow people.

Thank you,
Elliott Alexzander

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Very nifty.  Send a girl from India to school.

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I just bought a math and pencil set for two girls, but some don’t have anything yet. If you have extra cash please try to help.

To suggest that one’s belly, body hair or tattoo is ‘distasteful’ and should therefore be covered in the name of etiquette is the very worst sort of body fascism. If your children are traumatised by the sight of a fat person in a bikini, a bit of cellulite or a caesarean scar, then may I tentatively suggest that you aren’t raising them correctly. If seeing someone hairy wearing something skimpy renders you ‘unable to eat your lunch’ then I’m afraid my diagnosis of the problem is with your brain, not their body.
Rather than fighting for every woman’s right to feel beautiful, I would like to see the return of a kind of feminism that tells women and girls everywhere that maybe it’s all right not to be pretty and perfectly well behaved. That maybe women who are plain, or large, or old, or differently abled, or who simply don’t give a damn what they look like because they’re too busy saving the world or rearranging their sock drawer, have as much right to take up space as anyone else.

I think if we want to take care of the next generation of girls we should reassure them that power, strength and character are more important than beauty and always will be, and that even if they aren’t thin and pretty, they are still worthy of respect. That feeling is the birthright of men everywhere. It’s about time we claimed it for ourselves.


The only way to respond when someone asks you “why do you write strong female characters.”



Joan Jett’s jacket. Notice the pins.

"keep abortion legal"

"If she says no, it’s rape"

"Pro fucking choice"

This jacket is from about thirty years ago. These issues were big then. Thirty years later, these issues are still present. I was amazed to find these pins on the jacket, and realize this, because I would have thought, back then, if I was alive, that those issues would be solved by NOW.

But they aren’t. Joan Jett knew what was up.

Why can’t we take a minute and soak in her “bad reputation” and think about how in thirty years, abortion and rape culture STILL are huge issues.

Photos courtesy of EMP museum in Seattle, Washington.

Joan Jett has never not been cool. 💙AA

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MADE UP explores social constructions of gender differences, beauty, and relationships.

View the complete set of PORTRAITS, and the rest of the EXPERIMENT created by Brenna Paxton.


Let’s Talk: Rape Jokes

Trigger Warning: Rape
Disclaimer: People also need to be aware about rape victims who are men, however in this video, I mostly refer to women and how rape culture affects them.

  • Why they are dangerous
  • Statistics and Rape Culture
  • Make fun of the culture, not the victim
  • Freedom of speech
Animals don’t behave like men,’ he said. ‘If they have to fight, they fight; and if they have to kill they kill. But they don’t sit down and set their wits to work to devise ways of spoiling other creatures’ lives and hurting them. They have dignity and animality.

Watership Down, Richard Adams (via deotroslados)



closet-racists like to claim that they’d be totally fine and dandy with traditionally white characters being portrayed by actors of color whilst they’re casually dismissing the prevalence of white-washing in hollywood. hate to break it to you, but that is NOT the typical response that actors of color receive, and if you can’t acknowledge that, then you’re only adding to the problem.

remember that time hunger games fans flipped their shit because rue, who IS actually black in the books, was rightfully cast as black in the film? apparently their rose-colored white-is-default glasses made their eyes gloss over that tidbit of info. (let’s not even get wholeheartedly into the fact that katniss was described as having olive skin and jet black hair but her casting call specifically asked for only white actresses…because non-whites could never be expected to have dark hair and tan skin amirite?!)

remember that time people actually boycotted thor because idris elba was in it?

remember that time donald glover got hoards of letters calling him the n-word because there were rumors about him possibly being the new spiderman?

or that time the film adaptation of avatar: the last airbender (a show with OBVIOUS asian inspiration) was almost an entirely caucasian cast except for the “bad guy”, who, in the cartoon is actually light-skinned?                            

or remember that time all those fans said it was wrong to have angel coulby play the role of gwen in merlin because it wasn’t era-appropriate. because, ya know, being era-appropriate in a made-up story about magic is srs bsns.

so that’s why i don’t give a shit if you think i’m “overreacting” about jj abrams having a white actor play khan noonien singh. i’m not that surprised by it, since actors of color are routinely dismissed, but i still reserve the right to be pissed.

Remember that time when executives said that they wouldn’t fund a movie because it didn’t have enough white people in it?

Remember the time when executives said that they wouldn’t allow a show with a majority POC cast because “Black people don’t see themselves in the future?” despite Geordi, Uhura, Sisko, Tuvok, Tyr, Zoe and so many other BLACK sci fi characters existing as past precedent?

Remember when it took 20 years to get a movie about Black people out because distributors BLATANTLY REFUSED TO PUT IN THE WORK TO PROPERLY ADVERTISE A BLACK MOVIE?

Remember when writers had  Batman choose a French/African representative in a comic book and people FLIPPED THEIR SHIT because how dare he choose a Black Muslim to represent FRANCE!!!!

But we’re overreacting when we say we’re tired of the bullshit that is systemically entrenched in damn near every form of media…..

Oh, ok…. 

The more clearly we can focus our attention on the wonders and realities of the universe about us, the less taste we shall have for destruction.

Rachel Carson

The Problem with 'Boys Will Be Boys' 

For months, every morning when my daughter was in preschool, I watched her construct an elaborate castle out of blocks, colorful plastic discs, bits of rope, ribbons and feathers, only to have the same little boy gleefully destroy it within seconds of its completion.

No matter how many times he did it, his parents never swooped in BEFORE the morning’s live 3-D reenactment of “Invasion of AstroMonster.” This is what they’d say repeatedly:

“You know! Boys will be boys!” 

“He’s just going through a phase!”

“He’s such a boy! He LOVES destroying things!”

“Oh my god! Girls and boys are SO different!”

“He. Just. Can’t. Help himself!”

I tried to teach my daughter how to stop this from happening. She asked him politely not to do it. We talked about some things she might do. She moved where she built. She stood in his way. She built a stronger foundation to the castle, so that, if he did get to it, she wouldn’t have to rebuild the whole thing. In the meantime, I imagine his parents thinking, “What red-blooded boy wouldn’t knock it down?”

She built a beautiful, glittery castle in a public space.

It was so tempting.

He just couldn’t control himself and, being a boy, had violent inclinations.

She had to keep her building safe.

Her consent didn’t matter. Besides, it’s not like she made a big fuss when he knocked it down. It wasn’t a “legitimate” knocking over if she didn’t throw a tantrum.

His desire — for power, destruction, control, whatever- - was understandable.

Maybe she “shouldn’t have gone to preschool” at all. OR, better if she just kept her building activities to home.

I know it’s a lurid metaphor, but I taught my daughter the preschool block precursor of don’t “get raped” and this child, Boy #1, did not learn the preschool equivalent of “don’t rape.

Not once did his parents talk to him about invading another person’s space and claiming for his own purposes something that was not his to claim. Respect for her and her work and words was not something he was learning.  How much of the boy’s behavior in coming years would be excused in these ways, be calibrated to meet these expectations and enforce the “rules” his parents kept repeating?

There was another boy who, similarly, decided to knock down her castle one day. When he did it his mother took him in hand, explained to him that it was not his to destroy, asked him how he thought my daughter felt after working so hard on her building and walked over with him so he could apologize. That probably wasn’t much fun for him, but he did not do it again.

There was a third child. He was really smart. He asked if he could knock her building down. She, beneficent ruler of all pre-circle-time castle construction, said yes… but only after she was done building it and said it was OK. They worked out a plan together and eventually he started building things with her and they would both knock the thing down with unadulterated joy. You can’t make this stuff up.

Take each of these three boys and consider what he might do when he’s older, say, at college, drunk at a party, mad at an ex-girlfriend who rebuffs him and uses words that she expects will be meaningful and respected, “No, I don’t want to. Stop. Leave.”

The “overarching attitudinal characteristic” of abusive men is entitlement.

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The best way to dehumanize someone while claiming you’re not is to believe you are just the same. You erase their experiences and perspective, their struggles and obstacles, their unique way of having to deal with those things in a world that also erases them. With the words, ‘but humans are humans’ or the bullshit dramatics of ‘we all bleed red’ normal people can simply pretend that if we all did things the way they did, then everything would work out okay. But, yes, we all bleed red but you don’t treat a papercut the same way you treat a gash, you don’t treat an infected wound the same way you treat one that isn’t, you don’t treat a wound to the leg the same way you treat a wound to the gut. You are not acknowledging someone’s personhood when you ignore the very things that make their lives different than yours, and when you refuse to understand that their circumstances have given them their own perspective that is just as valid as yours. More valid in fact – their perspective about their experiences that you haven’t been through is far more valid than anything you could ever think about it.







So I got sent to the dean today for wearing this top. My study tech teacher said that I was “exploiting” myself and that it could be a distraction to the other students. I got up out of my seat and told her that I wasn’t going to listen to her dress codes. In a way, she was being misogynist and slut shaming and I think that’s wrong. I will continue to wear what I want and nobody can tell me not to. The fact that womens bodies are sexualized and objectified so much angers me and that’s the reason why this happened. I’m going to wear what I want, how I want, when I want and that’s it.

I was there, reblog the shit out of this guys

womens bodies ARE sexulized thats the reason why they want you to cover up your body and its IS a distraction to young boobie hungry boys and its sad but people are ignorant and they will continue to call you names and s/t and you’d be making posts about that so how about follow the rules for like idk 5-8 hours a day and stop being a rebellious teenager pls because in the real world that aint gonna cut it

The only way to defeat misogyny and slut shaming and the sexualization of women’s bodies is to stand up and fight it. It won’t just go away on it’s own. Telling someone to accept ignorance and oppression because that’s just how the “real world” is is sheepish and cowardly and pretty shitty and it’s because of these kind of people that this shit still exists today. And furthermore, stop victim blaming. Teenagers are hormonal it’s true, but they can and should be able to control their urges and if they can’t or won’t they need to figure that shit out because that’s their own damn problem and if a side view of a bra is uncontrollably arousing for some perverted kid then they need to figure that shit out on their own time because honestly it’s stupid and immature. Boys aren’t animals and girls aren’t objects. Stop making them believe this.

Holy shit. Grow the fuck up.

I choose not to save my pits. NOT because “I’m a woman and my body hair is natural and beautiful and and I love it and fuck your beauty standards!” but because I just don’t care. And I find shaving them to be irritating. But if my employer asks me to shave my arm pits I will. No one is trying to “shame you” or “oppress you” or “put you in your place.” They’re just rules, and they exist for a reason. The men I work with are asked to keep their faces clean shaven because it’s off-putting to customers. No one wants beard hairs in their food. So If I’m asked to shave my arm pits for the same reason I will.

This is so stupid my head hurts.

You know what. I think the thing that’s getting people’s panties in a twist is the sexualization of breasts. BREASTS ARE NOT SEX OBJECTS. THEY ARE MEANT FOR LACTATION. TO FEED BABIES. NOT FOR SEX. It would be like telling me to cover up my hair, because some people like to pull on hair during sex. Or telling me to cover up my mouth because it can be used to perform sexual acts. The misogyny comes from men associating breasts with the act of sex, and censoring it as such. My breasts are as sexy as my ears, as my knees, as any of my external body parts that serve a purpose besides procreation. Unless males are required to cover their chest as thoroughly as females, or females are allowed the equal leniency on chest exposure, people will be perpetually disgruntled by this.

Yes there are rules, yes a many of them are for good reason, but not all of them. For as many good sensible rules there are, there is and have been rules that are oppressive.

PREACH! There’s something called self control and people need to remember that it’s not hard to use. We’re not wild animals. If someone’s bra is so distracting that it affects your education, that’s a personal problem that you need to get sorted out on your own time. Everyone should mind their business and do what they’re supposed to be doing in class and that includes the teacher. Also, how is pit hair and beards the same thing? Why would anyone ask you to shave your pit hair? If they do they should ask the men to do the same. I have no idea why your pit hair would be out at work unless you’re allowed to wear tank tops? if that’s the case, all pits should be shaven for the sake of the food, lol

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